Are You Showing Yourself Love and Compassion?
Hey friend,
If you've turned on the news this week, then you know how unstable the world seems. Right now, the biggest thing you can do for your peace of mind is learning to separate yourself from the collective energies.
One way to do this is to bring the focus from the external world and put it back on yourself.
If you find yourself getting riled up, upset, or even scared over what you are hearing in the news, the most important thing to do is to hold yourself closer and offer yourself love and compassion.
Why? Because you are worth it! If anybody deserves your love, it's you!
For most of us, self-compassion doesn’t come naturally or easily, but luckily, it’s something we can all learn. Self-compassionate people recognize their stress, and they immediately know they have to stop the stress by killing it with love.
If you struggle with self-love and compassion, there's something in your past you are still holding on to.
Forgiveness is crucial for self-compassion. You can’t have self-compassion if you can't forgive yourself. Stop punishing yourself for the mistakes you made in the past.
You are only human and humans make mistakes. Learn your lessons and let them go.
Accept the past for what it is. Yes. The past is heavy, but you must make peace with it so it can no longer haunt you.
We all have things from our past we regret. Things we wish never happened. But the more you focus on accepting the things for what they are, the more content you become with where you are now.
Accept it so you can find the peace to move on.
If you can fully accept that things are painful and still show yourself love and compassion, you can be with your pain with ease.
Practice mindfulness. You have to be able to see yourself separately from the negative thoughts and feelings you experience. Observe thoughts and feelings without judging yourself for thinking and feeling them.
Just because you think a thought does not make it true. Observe your thoughts without attachment and then let them go.
Mindfulness allows you to live life with less resistance.
Nurture your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual body. Nurturing yourself is not selfish, nurturing yourself is an act of survival. One of the most compassionate things you can do for yourself is to nurture your mind, body, and soul.
When you are going through a rough time, think of all the encouraging words you would say to someone you really care about. You wouldn’t yell at them and tell them how stupid they are. You would encourage them to keep fighting and not give up.
Why don’t you do that for yourself? You matter!
With self-criticism, you are both the attacked and the attacker. With self-compassion, you are the attacked and the savior.
Be Good to You. Painful thoughts and memories that result after traumatic events will be less overwhelming when you show compassion for yourself. Facing them may be easier too.
When you have self-compassion, you are less likely to focus on your despair and instead find avenues to comfort and make yourself feel better.
Next time you feel attacked by negative emotions and unsettling feelings, hold yourself in your own warm embrace. Save yourself because you are the only one who can, and you are more than capable.
Don’t allow life’s challenges to discourage you and keep your spirits down.
If you find that times are too hard and you can't do it alone, you don't have to.
There’s help and support available. All you have to do is ask.